Front Page > Articles > Dating strategies for the introvert
Dating strategies for the introvert
Are you energized by spending time alone? In meetings, do you
need to be asked for your opinions and ideas? Do you tend to notice
details that other people miss? Is your ideal celebration a small
get-together, rather than a big party? The good news is, you're an
introvert. Here are some tips to help you work with, instead
of against, your temperament while dating.
- Make the first meeting short, e.g., have coffee or a drink.
- Suggest a specific start and stop time.
- Meet at a neutral location so you can leave if you want.
- Use your good observational skills to gain information
about the person.
- Reveal as much personal information as the other person
does, within reason.
- Take a bathroom break or two if you're feeling anxious or
overexcited.
- Don't try to be extroverted
- Don't rely on alcohol or drugs to help you loosen up.
- Don't overextend yourself; watch your energy level.
- Notice if you are getting irritable and think about why.
- Don't push yourself to have physical contact; you need time
to feel comfortable.
- Look for red flags, such as how he or she handles conflict.
Note whether you think he or she is too passive or too aggressive.
- Pay attention to any uncomfortable feelings you have,
such as anger, fear, or boredom. Think about what messages these
feelings are sending you.
It's
time that introverts realize just how unique and special they are. We
are ripe for a cultural shift toward the acceptance of introversion.
It's
all right for us to stop trying to fit in and to "shape up." We need to
appreciate our own shape as it is.
Written by Mary Nicole Hicks
Tags:
Dating, Introvert
Related items:
Add Comment
